Stop 'high self-esteem seizures'
Question: My 4-year-old stepson still has the occasional tantrum in response to being told that he can’t have or do something. His mother, who has primary custody (he’s with us two days a week, generally), is very permissive, so he comes by this “honestly.” When he throws a tantrum, we put him in his “tantrum place,” which is a chair in the dining room. That causes his tantrum to get worse, actually, and it sometimes takes him 30 minutes or more to calm himself down to where he can get out of the chair. Is there anything we can do to help him get control of himself or should we just ignore it and carry on? Four years old is too old for tantrums, correct?