DEAR HARRIETTE: My fiancee has always dreamed of a huge wedding with all of her friends and family there to watch. She has all these ideas of what she wants from the venue, to the dress, flowers, band and caterers. But all of that adds up to be expensive. Even if we do a big wedding in the cheapest way, it is still a lot to plan and pay for. I have expressed my concern about us spending that kind of money on a wedding when we could use the money toward a new home. I would rather just get married in a courthouse with a few friends and family there to witness and then go out for dinner instead of wasting a fortune on one day’s event. I really am against a huge wedding, but she is set on having one. How do we work this out?